Love must be given away to be received.
We all struggle at times when it comes to relationships. Relationships are not always easy but with a few careful adjustments you can have an extremely rewarding, loving and overall enjoyable relationship with the most important person in your life. Often what can feel like insurmountable problems extending over weeks, months or even years, can be quickly reframed by challenging the negative feelings and experiences associated with relationship breakdowns. This can be achieved most effectively through solution focused strategies including neuro linguistic programming and solution focused counselling.
There are many reasons for couples, alone and/or together to seek professional help. If you have a partner you may wonder how to keep the relationship fresh and alive: to revive the good experiences you had early in the relationship. You may come across issues that are causing tension and trouble in the relationship and be uncertain how to get beyond the problems. You may not be sure how to approach or talk to your partner without causing more tension and trouble. Communication may have broken down, or perhaps there are some things that have happened which are hard to forgive.
There are obviously many reasons for a relationship breakdown and these reasons are complex and unique to those individuals involved. However, the positive influence and shifts that can be achieved by talking with a professional who is experienced both personally and professionally in relationship dynamics, can be invaluable. In conjunction with this, using brief therapies that are solution focused and positive in ascertaining what needs to happen to initiate change in the relationship, works. The therapies I employ with couples and individuals when faced with relationship problems are effective in focusing on what needs to happen to recover the love and enjoyment in the relationship that was once there. These therapies are effective in building on the positive and undermining the negative, thus focusing on the reasons why you should, or should not, remain together. Such a decision is dependent on what outcome is going to make the individuals involved most content in the long term.
As a consequence of using the right techniques in the most effective combinations, a clearness and clarity is experienced that the couple are seldom able to achieve without professional help. Getting out of this 'stuckness' and shifting negative patterns and habits within the relationship can be life enhancing.
I have had the unfortunate experience of divorce and have since experienced a fullfilled, loving marriage that works well. As a consequence, I understand the difficulties which can work to break down a relationship and the methods and habits that work in maintaining a good marriage. Furthermore, in my professional training I have learnt how to help guide others within their relationships. I know that with my unique combination of personal and professional experiences combined I am able in effectively helping couples either alone or together, to make important decisions about how to move towards a more rewarding, balanced and happy life. My extensive professional training and qualifications ensures my ability to communicate, teach and assist using the most effective techniques available. My personal experience allows me to have a deeper, more empathetic understanding of the experiences associated with relationship concerns.
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